DawningLife Midwifery

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Joshua Loucas

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Lord, your will be done….BUT, if I have any say in the matter, I’d REALLY like to have this baby tomorrow.

That was my whispered prayer Thursday night. Never mind the fact the whole house had been sick all week, and never mind the fact I still had last minute things to do to prepare for this baby. I was ready.

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Lord, your will be done….BUT, if I have any say in the matter, I’d REALLY like to have this baby tomorrow.

That was my whispered prayer Thursday night. Never mind the fact the whole house had been sick all week, and never mind the fact I still had last minute things to do to prepare for this baby. I was ready.

Around noon Friday, I remember flipping through channels while Ray, our two year old, was eating and I felt this distinct POP. It felt the same as when my previous labors started with docs breaking my water. I waited, felt no water, but did feel a small cramp. Nothing really worth mentioning, but it was odd I had 3 of those during the last TV show. I thought I’d just time them for fun, because I honestly didn’t think it was the real thing. However, when I got up to get my watch I noticed how much the floor needed sweeping. “Hmm, I smiled and thought, if I were to go into labor I couldn’t let anyone come in here and see these floors!!” So I grabbed a broom instead of the watch and started sweeping the whole upstairs. Halfway through, Louis called and asked why I sounded out of breath. I told him I was having minor contractions, nothing to worry about, and I was tidying the house. I hung up and shortly thereafter noticed I had to stop sweeping when I’d have a contraction. Keep in mind my first two children were induced and with my third child I had painless contractions 15 min apart for almost a full 24 hrs before I decided to go to a hospital, and then I was only at 4cm. So, I’ve never really had a lot of experience starting my own labor and even when these got to a place I had to stop and close my eyes, I didn’t want to call Louis or Claudia. I simply didn’t want to bother them! Well, Louis called back and said from my tone I should call the midwife. I told him no. So after we hung up, I get a call from Claudia! Apparently Louis called her for me!

We talked for a bit and she suggested a few things to try and see if the contractions would stop. An hour later after drinking water and lying down, I called to let Claudia know they hadn’t gone away. She suggested a nice bath. By then it was almost 2:00 in the afternoon. Thankfully Ray had fallen asleep.  I hopped in the tub and with each contraction, I sort of expected my water to break or lose my plug or something. These were beginning to hurt and it took all my concentration to focus during the peaks. Around 2:40, I called Louis and asked him to come home. I felt like I just needed him to be close by. I also called Claudia, and she let me know she was gonna come over. She also suggested I give DeAnna a call. DeAnna, a friend of mine, was supposed to be present at the birth, but lived over an hour away. I apologized for bothering Claudia, and I apologized when I called DeAnna to tell her come on. I was really thinking all these people are coming for nothing! My older kids arrived a few minutes later, and my daughter took one look at me and immediately knew I was in labor! I expected her to freak out a little since she’s only 10, but immediately she started tidying and taking pillows off the bed. Louis showed up a few minutes later, and I decided to get out the tub. Wow!! What a difference! Now the contractions were really hurting...I made it to the living room (way too much activity in the bedroom for me!) and just stuck my face in the sofa pillows and tried to block out the world. By the time I popped my head up, Louis had all this stuff in the hallway and I could hear him and Claudia talking. I dropped to all fours, since it didn’t seem I could walk much at this point, and just hung out there until I saw those familiar tie dyed socks. :)

A little chit chat and a potty break later Claudia checked me and I expected to hear a nice 5 or 6 cm.... but I was about 8cm!!! Well my adrenaline kicked in and I grabbed my cell and started texting family and friends – who at this point didn’t even know I was in labor! I even took a couple of business calls in between contractions! Claudia commented we may not have time to get in the birth pool since there wasn’t any hot water in the tub at all!! Well that challenge to Louis kicked things into high gear! Soon I smelled what seemed like smoke and I told Claudia he was going to try and burn the house down to make sure there was hot water! It was like a movie! Louis and Claudia passing pots of hot water and dumping it in the pool (regular water pressure was low) and I later learned he had all four stove burners on high, a pot in the oven , and one in the microwave!!

I finally got in the tub and it felt soooooo good! Before I knew it I felt ready to push, and that’s when DeAnna showed up! I was so happy she made it to me before the delivery was over. Well, I felt like pushing, so I pushed! It was so nice being able to push with the urge instead of being told to do it. It only seemed like maybe two contractions and a handful of pushes when I felt little Joshua getting ready to crown! I was thinking Oh no it’s too fast! He’s gonna rip me!! But he didn’t Thank God for olive oil and those perineal massages! Joshua was born at 5:46pm. Claudia asked me to stop for a sec because apparently Joshua was born with a caul, or still in his water bag! Louis said in the pictures he looks like he’s in a little cloud (thanks so much for those pics Claudia and DeAnna!) One more push and my little “earth child” was in my arms! Louis, who was supposed to catch, just sat contented right between my knees where he had the best view! I think the whole ‘water bag intact’ thing sorta killed his desire to catch – he said he’d leave it to the professionals! He did cut the cord, and once I climbed out the water and into my bed, the kids came in and helped with the newborn check.

All in all it was the most awesome experience!! Had I known I would have had all my kids at home! Everything felt so natural; no machines, no belts, and no monitors! It was empowering to be in control of my surroundings and my body. My husband even said this was the absolute best experience he’d been a part of, and believe me he played a very active role at the birth. This was a stark contrast to being simply ushered to my side to hold my hand in the hospital. He tells everyone who will listen about our homebirth and the “dream team” who facilitated the whole thing. My labor progressed as it should have without the unnecessary use of medication. The initial bond is stronger with this child since there was no separation (I almost hyperventilated the other day when I thought I would eventually have to move Joshua out of our room!) and it made me feel so good to involve my other children (the ultimate homeschool experience!)

Women are stronger than we give ourselves credit for. That’s why God gives us midwives; to help us remember our strength.

To see pictures of Joshua’s birth click here